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GENTLENESS,
GOOD MANNERS AND ABSTINENCE FROM THE UNLAWFUL
HILM, AKHLAQ AND WARA'A Prof. Dr. Mahmud Es'ad COSAN Translated from Islam, Tasavvuf ve Hayat, Istanbul: Seha, 1996, pp. 253-280. The original text is available at http://meckitap.8m.com E'ūdhu billāhi minash
shaytānir rajīm Elhamdu lillāhi rabbil
ālemīne hamdan kathīran tayyiban mubārakan fīhi alā kulli hālin wa fī
külli
hīn... Was salātu
(Thelāthun men lem yekun
fīh, feleyse minnī wa lā minallah: Hilmun yaruddu bihī jahlel jāhil, wa
husnul
khuluqu yaīshu bihī fin nās, wa wara'un yahjuzuhū an maāsillah.) Sadaqa
rasūlullah, fī mā qal aw kemā qal.
Dear Brothers and Sisters! May your Friday night be
blessed. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala have you benefit from the
goodness, abundance, and spirituality of this blessed night. May
He grant
you happiness in this life and in the hereafter. May He honor you
with
His Beauty in His Paradise. This evening, I am going to
explain a hadith reported
by Hadrat Ali (karramallahu wajhah). Naturally, all
ahadith are
crowns on our heads. The reporters
are the companions of Prophet Muhammad SAS; they are like
stars in the sky. We love and respect all of the companions, yet
Hadrat
Ali has a special place in our hearts. Especially nowadays,
people are
appearing on television to claim that they are Alawīs and they love him
very
much. Yet the very same people make incorrect statements and take
an
offensive stance towards Islam. They disregard the history, the
commentaries on the Qur'an, and the words of Prophet Muhammad SAS. We invite all who claim to
love Hadrat Ali (radiallahu anh), who claim to be Alawī to the
path of
Hadrat Ali RA. We invite them to lead a life as Hadrat Ali did,
to listen
to his words, and to be how he
was. We are
trying to be like him. Hadrat Ali RA is a crown on
our heads. He is one of the Ashara-i Mubash-shara (the
ten people
whom are told that they would enter the paradise by the Prophet), also
the
son-in-law of the Prophet. He is one of the personages who are
dearest to
us. It is very upsetting to deny his path, his belief, and his
interpretation of Islam and yet to claim to be one of his
followers. We
ought to look at this issue, ordain the good and prohibit the evil. How are we going to do
it? What are we going to say? "Look, this is what
Hadrat Ali said about this issue. What do you say? Do you
love
him?" "I do." "Then, here is what he
said. We ought to do what he said if we love him." That is why we should
compile the ahadith related by Hadrat Ali RA and publish it. Yes,
the
words are from the Prophet, yet the relater is Hadrat Ali RA. If
it is
related by Hazrat Ali, the running water should stop. Some claim that they are
humanists and tolerant towards other people. We ought to see you
in
action. As the saying goes, "The mirror of a person is his
work--not
his words." We have to see you in action. We have to
observe
how you work, how you treat other people, and how you lead your
life.
Then we can decide if you are really what you claim to be.
Everybody
would brag about himself; we have to see if you are as you describe. We are going to read what
Hadrat Ali had reported
from the Prophet. We had been reading from the book Ramuz
al-Ahadith
(The Ocean of the Ahadith). I must admit that I could not
remember which
page we were at. It has been quite some time since we were
here for the last time. We
have neglected the discourses here. Brothers and Sisters!
We should not neglect these hadith discourses. The worship and
preaching
are good deeds to be rewarded in the hereafter. They incur the
consent of
Allah. Such deeds should not depend on a particular person.
It
would not be acceptable to have the discourses only when I am here and
neglect
it when I am not here. If I do not come here, you would prefer
watching
television. That is not acceptable. Persons are temporary
in this
life. They depart when the time comes. One leaves, and
another
person arrives. The persons are not that important, but the
traditions,
the customs, are. We have to establish good deeds and practices. If we study ahadith here on
Thursdays, it will continue regularly. Everybody should know that
on
Thursday there is a hadith discourse and schedule his activities
accordingly. If somebody wanted to visit us on Thursday evenings,
we
ought to tell him that we have the hadith discourse in the mosque after
Isha
and that he should come with us. There is room for ladies, too. We have to schedule all of
our activities according to our worship time. We should not
sacrifice our
worship for other types of activities. Earning the consent of
Allah
should be our motto. Our life should be planned in accordance
with the
prayer times. From now on, everybody
should take notice that there will be a hadith discourse here every
Thursday. You should come here with that intention. Hadrat Ali RA related that
the Prophet said:
(Thelāthun men lem yakun
fīh) "There
are three things that if a person lacks them, (falaysa minnī)
he is not
from me (wa lā minallah) or from Allah." This is a very
strong, important statement. The Prophet will state three
things.
If a person has these three things, there is no problem. If a
person
lacks them, he will not be a good Muslim or a good servant of
Allah. The
person is rejected by the Prophet. The Prophet strongly
desires that these three virtues are present in a person. We all
must
acquire these virtues because we want to be on the side of the
Prophet.
We all want to say, "O Messenger of Allah, we are with you!" We
all want to practice what Allah has ordained for us; we want to
be
obedient to Him. We want His consent. We do not want to be
left
out. What are these three
virtues? Here is the first one:
(Hilmun yaruddu bihī
jahlel jāhil)
"A gentleness (hilm) that faces the ignorance of the
ignorant." We have to have a gentle treatment towards an ignorant
person despite his misconduct towards us. That means we should not be
hot tempered or nervous towards others. We have to be calm when
somebody
does something upsetting. We should not get angry easily.
We have
to control our anger. We have to be quiet and calm and keep a
smiling
face. While we were driving here,
there was a car in front of us. The driver was avoiding all the
potholes
on the road. He was driving on the three-lane road as if he was
the only
person on the road. He was occupying all three lanes as he
wished.
Someone in our car commented: "Watch out! The driver ahead
could be drunk!" When we passed that car,
the car made a right turn and almost hit our car. I signaled to
the
driver by my hand and asked, "What are you doing?" The driver was a young
man. It looked like he just got his drivers license and got his
father's
car. He was taking a pleasure in driving. He looked at me
and had a
nice smile. I forgave him. He did not get angry with me for
waving
my hand. He must have seen me as an elderly person with a cufy
cap on my
head and a beard on my face. He smiled at me, and I overlooked
what he
did. He is still young and inexperienced. That means a smile could
get a person out of trouble. A gentle person should behave like
that. If an ignorant person does something wrong or improper to
him, she
should remain calm and quiet. He should face him gently and
respond to
him calmly. Thus the ignorance will not be exaggerated, yet
suppressed. The fire would be put off. We all should have the
calmness because it is for the benefit and happiness of the society. I travel often and have a
different experience each time I go to some place. I hear various
things
happening among people. We can imagine that there may be a
disagreement
between a Muslim and a non-Muslim. Yet I witness unimaginable problems
and
disagreements among people who attend the same mosque and follow the
same
tariqa. I see anger and hostility. I see that they do not
talk to
one another. It is a strange situation that originates from the
fact that
we have not accepted the Islamic training for ourselves. We have
not
assimilated the spiritual training well. We have to absorb it
well.
When we fail to do so, we get angry for insignificant matters that
would lead
to unpleasant consequences. I hear from ladies that
they are divided into two groups in a small town. One group
insists on
something while the other group insists on something else. Yet
both are
valid and acceptable. You can go to Ozelif Complex from various
routes.
There is no reason to fight. There are many paths leading to the
same
destination. There exist indigestion, a
tension, and a stress among people. It should not be like
that.
Muslims should be calm, gentle, and tolerant. They should have a
smiling
face. He will not create a big problem upon the misconduct of the
ignorant. They should respond to the misconduct, but it has to be
done
calmly and wisely, so it would produce positive results. Sometimes, people do wrong
things in the name of Islam. The Messenger of Allah SAS was calm,
compassionate, merciful, and forgiving, yet he would not tolerate if an
order
of Allah was violated or a prohibition was committed. He would
become a
roaring lion. He would get angry then. When he delivered a
sermon,
he would be like a commander of an army attacking the enemy. He
would get
upset when an order of Allah is not fulfilled. We understand that the
calmness and gentleness (hilm) is for our relationships with
people in
business, in sharing the same neighborhood, in the family and
alike. Yet
when it comes to violating an order of Allah, we should not be
relaxed.
We may not tolerate the disobedience towards Allah. We may not
feel
relaxed and lazy towards carrying out what Almighty Allah ordered. "These guys are
young. Let them drink!" "You wretched person!
How could you say that while Almighty Allah forbids drinking
intoxicants?"
"Well, they are
young!" "It does not
matter! Young or elderly.... they must not drink!" "They are young; they
go to bed late. They neglect the prayers. They cannot get
up early
for the Fajr prayer." "It is not
acceptable!"
(Innas salāta kānet alel
mu'minīne kitāben mawkūtā) "The
prayer is an obligation on believers to be performed in predetermined
time intervals." The Fajr prayer is to be
performed during its time range. The Dhuhr prayer is to be
performed from
the noontime till the Asr time. These are to be performed within
its time
period. The Messenger of Allah
said: "If there are five houses in a locality, there should be a call
for
adhan and congregational prayers must be established there. If
that does
not happen, Satan invades and dominates the locality." Can you
lead
a fruitful life in a place dominated by Satan? Of course
not. The
evil will be all over. We ought to pay attention to these things.
As we understand from the
hadith, we must abandon the anger and be a calm person. It is a
very
important character that the Prophet wanted us to have. Meanwhile
we have
to protect our rights, uphold the orders of Allah and not allow the
prohibitions of Allah. That is amr bil ma'ruf and nahy anil
munkar
--ordaining the good and forbidding the evil. We may not make any
concessions when it comes to the orders of Allah. Still, we have
to be
calm. We have to observe the limits, and not get angry. A person came to the
Prophet and said: "O Messenger of Allah, give me an advice!" The Prophet said: "Lā
taghdab--do not get angry!" The person said: "O Messenger
of Allah, give me another advice!" "La taghdab!"
"O Messenger of Allah,
give me another advice!" "La taghdab!"
The Prophet said the same
thing three times: "La taghdab--do not get angry!" Now I think that I need to
tighten some bolts on me because sometimes I get angry. Once we were driving to
Konya. We climbed up a hill and reached to the top. The
other side
of the hill had three lanes: one is down; two lanes, up. As soon
as we
started driving down, we realized that there were three vehicles side
by side
climbing up and coming towards us. We were about to slam one
of the
vehicles head on! My stomach got upside down. I almost
panicked. I think the stomach releases some acid, and it burns
itself. Fasubhanallah! The driver had crossed the
double continuous lines, broken the rule. He could not see what
was
coming ahead. He put himself as well as us in danger. He
was
driving an Anadol pickup--it is a small and slow vehicle. If the
vehicle
were a BMW or Mercedes car, we could understand what he was counting
on.
I had to get off the pavement to avoid the accident. It took a
while for
me and for my stomach to calm down. We should be calm and not
get angry. We have to try and learn how to be calm. We have
to be
calm towards our spouses, our children, and our customers. We
have to be
calm towards the passengers in the bus that we are traveling. We
have to
be calm and sweet. That was one of the characteristics a person
must
have. The second characteristic
that our beloved Prophet wants us to have is the following:
(Wa husnul khuluqu
yaīshu bihī fin nās)
"And a good code of conduct to live among people." Dear Brothers and
Sisters! Good characters are many in number. The
method to
acquire such good characters is the path of Tasawwuf and Tariqa. It trains the nafs,
illuminates the heart and earns a person good characters. That
was how
Yunus was raised; that is how Mawlana Jalaluddin Rumi was
raised.
That is how Ibrahim Hakki Erzurumī and Eshrefoghlu Rumī were
raised. The
personages that we love and respect have been raised through Tasawwuf. The good characters are
many in count. Some scholars list as many as five or six hundred
good
characters. For example, generosity is a good character.
Being
merciful is a good character, so is being equitable. Generosity,
mercy,
justice and many other ones are all good characters. Our late Khawaja Mehmed
Zahid Kotku listed the good characters in his book Tasavvufī Ahlāk.
He listed them there so that our brothers and sisters could read and
learn about
them. You can also find material on the good characters in Ihyayi
Ulūm of
Imam Ghazali. You can also find them in Tariqat-i
Muhammadiya. Each
of the hadith collections allocates a chapter on the good
characters. You
can study them from there.
If you also study the lives
of important personages and prophets (may Almighty Allah be pleased
with them),
you will find information in there. "Do you know what
Hadrat Eyyūb (Job) AS did? Do you know about Prophet Noah?
Do you
know about Prophet Shu'ayb? What are the major events in their
lives?" "I do not know." "What a shame!
You must find out at once! Go study the lives of the
prophets.
There are books on this matter. You can get them from the
bookstores." Then, you must learn about
the companions of Prophet Muhammed SAS. There are books
describing their
lives, too. You can read them easily like a novel. We have
published similar books and distributed as gifts along with our monthly
magazines. You must read these books in your library. Then you must study about
the lives of the awliyaullah. There are personages whom
people
like very much. They have displayed some miracles. You may
witness
some of them. You could get to know them while living as
neighbors,
traveling, or doing business with them. You observe extraordinary
abilities and states with them. Sometimes you dream about
them. We
should read about their lives, too. As an example, I will
mention about Haji Bayram-i Veli--may Almighty Allah make his abode
Paradise
and grant his intercession for us. He would plant wheat in the
valley and
make a living that way. He would not be a burden to
anybody. Having
worked under the sun, he would get a dark complexion. With a
cycle in his
hand, he would harvest the wheat. He would not say, "I am a
shaikh! I am one of the awliya!" He would work like an
ordinary person. In fact he was a scholar, a professor in
madrasa.
Then he sought Tasawwuf training and became Haji Bayram-i Velī. Molla Akshamseddin, too,
heard about Haji Bayram-i Velī and came to him to receive spiritual
training. He wanted to improve himself spiritually, beautify his
code of
conduct, and become a beloved servant of Allah. He arrived in a
day that
there was a big feast in the valley. In the meadow, there were caldrons
of food
and many guests. Akshamseddin was a professor in madrasa, a
scholar, a
person with a diploma and turban indicating his rank in the school
system. Haji Bayram-i Velī did not pay any attention to him, nor
did he
look at him. He did not say, "welcome" to Akshamseddin, nor did
he show him a place at the table. Akshamseddin realized that
nobody had
any special treatment for him. He was not even asked who he was. Imagine, you were in his
shoes. If I were in his shoes, I would get angry. "I came
all
the way from a distant place for a visit. He even does not say
'welcome!' They all keep eating the food as if they've never seen
food,
yet they do not ask me to join them. Is there a place for this in
Islam? I am leaving this place." We could think like that. Akshamseddin did not do
what we would have done. He went to the place where the bones and
other
leftovers are dumped for the dogs. As he was getting ready to eat
something there, Haji Bayram-i Velī came to him: "Come here! You
inflamed my heart. You passed the test!" Haji Bayram-i Velī
had been following him with the vision of the awliya. He
pushed
Akshamseddin in a difficult situation. As Akshamseddin approached
to the
food container for dogs, Haji Bayram Velī picked him up and paid him
due
respect. Akshamseddin passed the
test of humbleness and the test
of not
getting angry. He
could have got angry and upset. He was a college professor!
He
could have found numerous reasons to criticize and get angry. He
could
have stated many ahadith on how to treat the guests and declared that
the
recommendations of the Prophet had been violated. The guest was
not
welcomed. He
could have left right away! Yet he did not do so. He was
patient,
calm, and humble. That earned him the success in the test. How did Almighty Allah put
Hadrat Abraham AS into a test? "Sacrifice your dear
son Ismail for Allah!" "Yes my Lord! If
it is your order, I sacrifice my own live and my child. I could
give up
everything I have for You!" How could a person neglect
an order knowing that it is from Almighty Allah? Hadrat Abraham
took a
knife and his son to sacrifice him. At the critical moment,
Almighty
Allah sent a ram. There was an order: "O Abraham! You
passed
the test! Sacrifice the ram, instead." Almighty Allah tests people
by bringing them to a critical moment. The awliyaullah, too,
tested some
people: "Let me see his character. Is he a haughty person? He is
a
scholar, a man of a diploma. He has a cloak and a turban of the
educated.
He has wealth, rank, and knowledge. I would like to see his
character." That is how Haji Bayram-i Velī tested
Akshamseddin. As Akshamseddin behaved with
patience, calm and humbleness, Haji Bayram-i Velī welcomed him and
showed him a place at the table. Of course, Akshamseddin became a
deputy
of Haji Bayram-i Velī and carried out the spiritual guidance work. The good characters include
being patient, being equitable, and being generous. There are
many of
them; you must learn what they are. You live among people and get
along
with them with your good characters. The good characters regulate
the
relationships and interactions among people. Almighty Allah
created good
characters and gave them to people so that their lives become
pleasant.
When everybody has good characters and manners, life becomes
beautiful.
With good characters, life would be pleasant in the village, in the
neighborhood, at the workplace, and at everywhere you can
imagine. Good
characters and manners are important for living in the society.
They are
required for the social life. We have to have good characters and
good
manners. We have to treat our
spouses and children with good manners, too. Dear Brothers and
Sisters! Sometimes I receive complaints. For instance,
yesterday I
heard in Konya that a young man had beaten up his father. Fasubhānallah!
This is not an ignorant person! He would offer his prayers and do
some
dhikr, too. Perhaps he had attended the sermons in the mosque,
too.
How could a person raise his hand to his father? Besides, his
father is
not a bad person. When the character is bad, when a person is not
trained
spiritually, the outcome is very unpleasant. Some men beat up their
wives! Some time ago, a young woman sent me a message on a piece
of paper
while I was in the mosque and stated: "My husband beats me up so
much that the walls get blood." I still feel like crying
for her. Her parents entrusted this woman to you to be your
wife.
They did not give her to you to hit her head to the walls. Don't
you have
any fear of Allah? Don't you have any mercy? How would you
feel if
somebody did the same thing to you? Now you are the strong one,
and you
treat her badly. What do you think it is going to happen to you
in the
hereafter? We all need good characters
very much. We need them in the family, in the neighborhood, in
the
village, in the town, in the country and in the world. How could a person burn a
forest? How could a person invade a village and kill
people? What
would he gain by doing so? What religion would order something
like
that? It is not in Christianity! It is not in
Judaism! It is
not right for anybody be it a Muslim or a non-Muslim to do such a
crime. I question myself about why
all of these are happening. Why did our people become so
bad? The
reason lies in our national education system. For so many
decades, the
importance of religion in our lives has been downgraded by our
education
system. Religious people have been mocked at and considered passé.
The education system distanced our youth from Islam. The
government
established brothels and wineries. The government dictated atheism in
schoolbooks. Teaching Islam correctly has been neglected.
If people
are not righteous believers, you expect the disorder and mistreatment. Look what the Prophet advised!
"Be gentle and calm! If you are not gentle and calm, you are not
from my nation, not a good servant to Allah!" He also advised to
have good manners. It is a must. Did you suffer from the
good
manners? How did the good manners hurt you? Why did you
prevent
people from getting the good manners? One of our professor
friends visited the Turkish Embassy in London. He saw a book
printed in
glossy paper which had a statement in Turkish: "In Turkey we have
decided
to be a part of Western Civilization by erasing and destroying all the
signs of
Islam and Islamic civilization." If you take decision as a
government in this way, if you take a stance against the orders of
Allah, if
you publish such books, then your people will become ruthless, violent
and cruel.
The reason for the cruelty is the negligence of proper Islamic
education. Now you tell me which one
is better: Yunus Emre or a murderer, a briber, or a shameless
person. Yunus Emre has been loved by people for centuries! Yunus Emre's
character was shaped by Islam. Yunus Emre received Tasawwuf
training. Why do you oppose Islam and Tasawwuf now? The atheists oppose
Tasawwuf; those who claim to be "Radical Muslims" oppose Tasawwuf,
and some professors in the college of theology oppose Tasawwuf!
Which one
shall I deal with? In this situation, how could one be
calm? Well,
we ought to be gentle and calm--I have no objection to that.
Fasubhānallah! We suffer from the foes and from the
friends. They
keep attacking and destroying. We try to fix and correct, yet
people busy
themselves with something else. May Almighty Allah give them a
good way
of thinking and understanding. Naturally, everybody works
at something and harvest the outcome in the end. Nobody gets away
with
the bad things he commits; he collects what he deserves in this
life and
in the hereafter. First we have to be gentle
and calm. Then we have to have good characters and manners.
We have
to be equitable, generous, merciful, patient, thankful, sweet-tongued,
smiling-faced, and agreeable. We must acquire these
characters.
Then comes the third one: ![]() (Wa wara'un yahjuzuhū an
maāsillah.) A Muslim must have wara'
too. Wara' is spelled with waw, ra and 'ayn.
It may be difficult to pronounce the last letter. Wara' means
to
be extremely cautious and careful. This carefulness is towards
avoiding
the sin. A Muslim must pay attention to staying away from the sin
or any
disobedience towards Almighty Allah. A Muslim must have wara'.
How is it possible that you
say you are a servant of Allah, a believer, you believe in the Qur'an,
you love
the Prophet, and you are a good Muslim, and then continue committing
offenses? How could you disobey Allah? How could you
disregard the
orders of Allah? You have to stay away from the unlawful.
The
feeling of abstinence from committing sins is wara'. It is even
beyond
the feeling of taqwa; it is avoiding the doubtful all together. If a person has taqwa, he
avoids the unlawful: He does not look at the unlawful, he does
not touch
the unlawful, he does not eat the unlawful. If a person has
wara', he
stays away from the doubtful with a fear of committing an
offense. He
acts very carefully. If a person is not careful, he may slip into
the sin
that would incur the wrath of Allah. That would be a terrible end
for a
person. If a person walks on the
edge of an abyss, the rock he is stepping could move, and the person
could fall
into the abyss. Why do you have to walk at the edge? It is
like
walking at the edge of the roof of a building. What if a tile
flips over
by the weight of the person? He would fall all the way down to
the ground
on his head. He would be hospitalized. Doctors would have
to put
nails and bandage over his head, cast on his arm, etc. Why did you have
to walk
at the edge? Why did you get close to the danger? You had
to stay
away from the doubtful and dangerous. Our beloved Prophet said:
"One who gets closer to the borderline between the lawful and unlawful
is
likely to fall into the unlawful." Close to the edge of the
roof, you may say, "Khawaja, do not worry! I am an expert, I
won't
fall down!" Yet the tiles could be wet and slippery; it does not
do
any good after you fall. You have to walk on the safe place and
avoid the
danger and doubtful. Avoid the borderlines. You can walk on
the
street, in the park, in the square, in the field, but avoid the
dangerous
places and edges. This is the feeling of wara'--abstaining
the unlawful and avoiding the doubtful and dangerous. In this hadith that was
related by Hadrat Ali RA, the Messenger of Allah taught us the
following: 1. We have to be
gentle and calm, patient. We should not get angry easily.
We have
to be calm when we face some disturbances originating from the
ignorance and
handle the situation with patience. Can you imagine what a
young man told the Prophet SAS? "O Messenger of Allah,
allow me commit adultery." Hearing this, the
companions got restless. They wanted to teach him a lesson for
his
improper request. Yet they kept silent in the presence of the
Prophet
SAS. The Prophet asked the young man to come closer. He
asked: "If a person looked at
your mother with ill intentions, would you feel happy?" "No!" "If you were married,
and a person looked at your wife with ill intentions, would you be
happy?"
"No!" "If you had a
daughter, and somebody looked at your daughter with ill intentions,
would you
feel happy?" "Of course not!" "The woman you would
commit adultery with would be the mother of somebody, the wife of
somebody, or
the daughter of somebody. Is there any other possibilities?" "No, there is
not." "That is why you must
not commit adultery." "All right O Messenger
of Allah. I repent and seek forgiveness from Almighty
Allah. Please
forgive me for such a request, too." I will give you another
example from the time of the Prophet. As you know, the mosques in
the
past did not have rugs or decorations. During the time of the
Prophet,
they would enclose a section of the desert and call it a mosque.
The
floor would be sand; the outside would be sand, too. Once a
Bedouin came
to the mosque. He felt the urge to urinate. He got up,
looked
around and decided to respond to the call of the nature on the sand by
the wall
inside the mosque. The companions got furious, yet the Prophet
told them:
"Do not get angry at him. He does not know the proper
manners.
Teach him. He is new in Islam. He does not know Islam
well.
He does not know the requirements on the cleanliness. Teach
him. Do
not get angry at him." That was an example
of hilm, gentleness, calmness, patience, winning the hearts and
education. We educate our children the
same way. When a child makes a mistake, you would not get angry
at him,
instead tell him, "Son, come here! Look, what you did was
wrong. You should have done this way." That would teach him
the correct way. You must explain and convince the child. 2. We have to have good
characters and good manners. You can study the good characters
from the
book Tasavvufi Ahlak written by our late Khawaja Muhammed
Zahid-i
Bursevī. Then you can read Imam Ghazzali's Ihyā-yi Ulūm.
It
is an excellent book! Then you find out what the good characters
and
manners are. You should study the lives
of the Prophets and the lives of the companions of our beloved
Prophet. You
read about them from the books and have your family listen to it.
Read
about the lives of scholars, beloved servants of Allah, and
awliyaullah. I must indicate the limits,
too: What you read must not be exaggeration. You have to
find out
the truth. There are some stories about some personages that are not
based on
the truth and are not
acceptable. You have
to learn from the authentic and reliable sources. When the
information is
false, Almighty Allah does not like it. That is why I suggest that
you study the lives of the Prophets, and the companions first.
The books
about them are reliable. Then read books about the great
awliyaullah that
are written by serious scholars. Do not read false and unreliable
books
that cause confusion. The information in them is not based on the
truth. It is the fabrication of some author. You have to be selective
when you watch television, too. I heard in one such program that
described the event of Mi'rāj (Ascension) of the Prophet SAS.
According
to the program, the Prophet saw a group of people while he was
descending from
the heavens. The group did not allow the Prophet to join
them. That
was the "assembly of the forty" i.e., of the forty virtuous
men. Look at the false information! Who are the "assembly
of
the forty"? They cannot be a grain of dust on the feet of the
Prophet! Prophet Muhammad SAS is the most beloved servant of
Allah, he is
the "sayyidil awwalīna wal akhirīn--the master of all that has
come
to this life and of all that will come to this life till the Day of
Judgment." Who are these men not to accept the Prophet in
their assembly? What kind of a story is this? What kind of
a lie is
it? We should not accept or respect such baseless, false
information.
It has no basis, no essence, and no truth in it! Mi'rāj is a well-known
event. The authentic hadith books describe the details about the
Mi'rāj
of our beloved Prophet. Reliable books provide all the
information based
on the ahadith. There is no such thing as the assembly of forty
not accepting
the Prophet. Somebody fabricated a lie and wrote in a book.
It
would be an offense to say such lies or listen to or believe in
them. How
is it possible? Who is the highest man? It is our beloved
Prophet
Muhammad the chosen. He is above all men; he is the leader of the
prophets! He is the crown of the creation, the most beloved
servant of
Allah! He is Habībullāh (Beloved of Allah), Rasūl-i Akram (the
most
Munificent Prophet), Nabiy-yi Muhtaram (The Dearest Prophet). How
could
you make a demeaning statement about him? If you could, how can
you
consider yourself a Muslim? You may ask, "What is
the assembly of the forty? Who are awliyaullah?" The "assembly of the forty," the
awliyaullah, are the beloved servants of Allah. They exist in
every
era. The beloved servants of Allah cannot reach the spiritual
level of
the Companions of the Prophet. They rank below the companions.
The
Prophet is above all, then the
companions and the awliyaullah follow his rank. "How come the
companions of the Prophet are above the awliyaullah in rank?" The Companions received the
honor of being with the Prophet and becoming his friends. The
highest
awliyaullah cannot reach the level of the companions. The false
information instills doubts and confusion in people's minds. It is not right to listen
to such false information. If a person listens to it and does not
silence
the speaker, [he will be apart of the lies, hence responsible for it,
too.] The false information misguides people and leads to
mischief. The information we seek has
to be sound. Why do you think we take a hadith book in our
discourses? We do that because it is the word of the
Prophet.
Somebody else's words could be false. The words of the Prophet
are
guaranteed to be true in the Qur'an:
(Wamā yantiqu 'anil
hawā. In huwa illā wahyun yūhā.) "The prophet does not utter false
information; he tells you about the orders of Allah. He conveys
the
messages revealed to him by Allah." (Qur'an 53:3-4) He is the
Messenger of Allah. ![]() (Walaw teqawwala 'aleynā ba'dal
eqawil. Le-akhaznā minhu bilyamīn.
Thumma leqata'nā minhul watīn.) "If the Messenger of Allah said
something against the will of Allah, he would have been destroyed; his
life
vain would be cut off." (Qur'an 69:44-46) That is why we study,
we
listen to and we explain the ahadith of the Prophet SAS. Dear Brothers and Sisters! We have to be gentle and
calm and we have to have good characters and conduct. Isn't this
advice
sufficient? 3. We have to have an
awareness to stay away from the unlawful. We have to avoid the
doubtful. We have to have wara'. Dear Brothers and
Sisters! Do you know what happens when a person commits an
offense
towards Allah? The spiritual heart of the person gets dark and
the light
of his belief diminishes. When a person commits a sin, his belief
gets
out of his heart. He loses his belief while committing a
sin. His
heart darkens, and his spiritual rank decreases. He loses his
spiritual
earnings. He becomes a dirty and ugly creature spiritually.
To
regain his spiritual level, the person has to work real hard. What do we need to do
then? We have to abstain from all kinds of sin as we would stay
away from
the disease AIDS. We have to stay away from the offenses, as we
would
avoid the plague, syphilis, cholera and other diseases. We have
to run
away from the sins as we would from a lion, a tiger, a snake, and a
scorpion. We have to avoid the sins as we avoid the atomic bombs
and
nuclear radiation. We all avoid the danger; we
seek a secure place for ourselves. We all avoid things that hurt
us. How come you do not avoid the sin that will hurt you even
more in the
hereafter? How come you do not stay away from the offenses?
Why do
you keep looking at the picture in the newspaper? Isn't there a
picture
of a naked woman in every page of every newspaper? She crossed
her legs
and posed the camera. She is from Sweden. She is lonely; she
lives in
... That newspaper must be burnt. That newspaper should not
be
allowed in homes. Everybody reads that
newspaper, watches similar shows on television, and then says:
"Khawaja, I
cannot feel any spiritual progress in myself." What do you expect?
If you indulge in such offenses, you lose your heart. Your heart
gets
tarnished and you do not progress spiritually. Our beloved Prophet SAS
said, "Hearts would get tarnished as the iron gets rusty." When
an instrument made of iron or steel is rusted, it does not
function.
Imagine an automobile engine
that had
been kept in water for
ten years. Then somebody got it out. Would that engine
work?
The rust has covered all parts, so it would not work! Do not
waste your
time with it; go and get a new engine. The heart
gets tarnished, too. That is why we have to keep our heart, mind
and eyes
away from the unlawful. "Khawaja, I do not buy
newspaper or bring it home." Well, how about
television? Isn't it worse than the newspaper? I would like
to see
those who do not have a television at home. Would you raise your
hands? While you are not home,
your children turn the television on and watch movies. They watch
the
shows that you turn your head away saying
"Tawba
astaghfirullah!" They watch the scene that you are ashamed
of
watching. That is a major disaster! Committing sins with
eyes,
hands, tongue, ears, and alike destroys the hearts. That is why one and half
billion Muslims do not have the impact of one and half kilo!
There are so
many Muslims, yet the evil is dominant all over! The evil ones
are ruling
the world, and the good ones are silent! The good has disappeared
while
the evil is piled up as mountains. Why is it so? Muslims
have no
strength because they have indulged in sins. They have no
strength of
belief! The lands that were ruled
by our
forefathers, with the power originated from their belief are now ruled
by the
disbelievers. It is all because we have indulged in sins so much!
We talk about the war of
independence: "The enemy attacked our borders from all direction, yet
we
saved our country from the invasion." Yet Satan has invaded our
villages, our homes, our hearts and our minds! Satan has invaded
our
Colleges of Theology where Islam is taught! How could we expect
good
thing under such conditions? I feel sorry for the events
that unfold in all parts of the world. Then doctors tell me,
"Khawaja, your stomach problem is not abnormal." "Why?" "You get nervous and
feel sorry for everything!" My stomach feels like
twisted. I feel sorry for everything! I hear news and get
sad. I truly feel sorry. My family members notice when my
stomach
starts producing acid. I cannot help it but feel sorry for those who
commit
misconduct. I feel sorry for the Muslims who are oppressed in all
parts
of the world. I just cannot help it. That is why, my Brothers
and Sisters, we have to avoid committing sins. We have to have
wara'. If we do not have wara', if we are not gentle and
calm, if
we do not have good characters, the Messenger of Allah does not accept
us. That means we fail to be a good servant to Allah.
We have to have hilm; do we
agree? Yes! We have to have good manners; do we agree?
Yes!
We have to abstain from sins. If you are a brave person, if you
want your
name to be written in the books of history, you shall remove the
television out
of your home! "Khawaja, I shall be
deprived of information and culture!" You will not be deprived of
anything! You can read your books and learn much more in a better
way! What is television?
It is "telef-ision!" It is a machine of telef
(destruction). It destroys our time, our mind, our hearts, our
religion,
our children, and our family. It destroys everything! If
you did
not have a television at home, you could study Qur'an, memorize suras,
and have
conversations with your children. You could read from the books on
Islam and
learn. The television is the biggest obstacle for the spiritual
advancement in your house. We have to abstain from
sins. We have to have hilm and good characters. We have to
have
taqwa and wara'. May Almighty Allah be your helper. Today we received very
important advice from the Prophet. Hadrat Ali reported the hadith. I wonder if
the Alawis follow this advice. We fail to follow, too. We
have so
many shortcomings, too. We must follow the advice; they should
find out
what Hadrat Ali related, too. September 29, 1994 --
Ozelif/ANKARA
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